Wants verses Needs People over 35 years old please answer?

I'm madly in love with a man that I have profound respect for and when we spend time together I truly enjoy his company I'm forty years old and he's forty six the problem is I want to be with him and I want to spend time with him, but I don't need him and I don't need to be around him 24/7. I do enjoy other things outside of him and I do have ambitions and goals. I guess where the problems start is he tells me that I come off like I don't need anything , he tells me nobody is that perfect what I try to explain the things that I need our outside of financial. I have explain this this situation so many times to men is that I do know they like to feel needed but alot of women who are self-sufficent don't know how to be needy what I need is emotional support someone I can effectively communicate with and somebody I can learn something from (we learn from each other) When I do truly need him he's thier for me me and vice versa... I guess what I'm saying is maybe I have'nt figured the real true meaning of WANTS VERSUS NEEDS